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Being around children and older parents and friends definitely is a lesson in patience.  My mom is in town this week, and we spent a few days up in Breckenridge.  My mom, who is 77 years old and I skied together.  At first, I noticed I was getting frustrated with how much slower she was moving, then I realized I had to practice patience.  I had to change my frame of mind and expectations.  I was happy to be spending time with my mom and if that meant taking fewer ski runs and only staying on green runs, it was worth it.  The goal was not for me to get as many runs in as possible, it was to spend time with my Mom.

Having patience, can be a challenge for most of us, but the ability to tolerate waiting, and to delay instant gratification without becoming agitated or upset can be life changing.  Being able to control your emotions or impulses and proceed calmly when faced with difficult or frustrating situations is an important life skill.

Needless to say, patience is not easy to attain and it’s probably harder now to achieve than ever before. In today’s world of ‘instant everything’, technological advancements and readily available credit have allowed us to obtain, experience, and consume practically anything we want.  So you may be thinking, is having patience still a virtue?

Absolutely!  Everything worthwhile and important does not take place right away.   Relationships, projects, learning opportunities all take time, dedication and effort to achieve.

The Benefits of Developing Patience

1. Reduces stress and makes you a happier, healthier person. When you learn and practice patience you don’t get as angry, stressed or overwhelmed. You are more in control of your emotions and in a better position to deal with difficult situations with ease and poise.
2. Better decision-making. When you’re patient you take the time to assess the situation, see the big picture, and weigh any pros and cons. The chances of making a big mistake lessen because you avoid making it in haste.
3. Helps develop understanding, empathy and compassion. You are automatically more understanding and compassionate with others when you yourself are patient. Patient people take the time to process what they go through and are able to determine what it takes to overcome obstacles so they are more understanding of others. This results in better, more fulfilling relationships with spouses, friends, children and bosses.

In Health,

Happiness is such an elusive thing… we all want to be happy right?  But the human experience

does not lend itself to us being “happy” all of the time.  The human experience is filled with ups and downs, sadness and joy, fullness and voids.   I remember in my early twenties I went on a youth trip to Taiwan for a month.  It was an intense month of constantly being surrounded by new people, but we instantly connected and became fast friends.  It was a jam packed month filled with lots of fun and partying.  After that intense month, it was time to go our separate ways.   I remember feeling intensely lonely after a month of being surrounded by people.  It was such a stark contrast in experiences. 
Recently, I have been experiencing the same feeling.  For the past 3 months I have immersed myself on the leadership team for the Womxn’s March Denver.  In less than 3 months we were tasked with having to fundraise over $35k to put on a large scale march, we had to create a database of supporters, marketing and PR plan for communications, a website, fundraising events, a dynamic lineup of artists and speakers and a team of 100 plus volunteers to help us put on the march.  It was an intense 3 months,  right in the middle of the holiday season.  Since it was an intense time, emotions would flare from our leadership team when there were inevitably things that we did not fundamentally agree on. 
We made it to game day which was Saturday, January 19^th and the event was very well put together, the program was inspirational and thoughtful, the march itself uplifted everyone and when it was all said and done we raised over $40k! There was so much to celebrate, but for me, it feels like there is a weird void in my life now.  When you are so busy for months working on a project, now that it is over it feels uncomfortable to slow down and get back to “normal” life. 
Being human is all about ups and downs.  We all experience highs and lows, life living on this planet is not easy.  Our brains are constantly comparing ourselves to others, constantly worried about something or other, and in general we can easily fall prey to “wanting” to feel happy all the time.  When we don’t we feel like something is wrong with us, so then we fill our days with busyness, shopping, eating, drinking, partying, whatever drama we feel like we need to stir up, we distract ourselves from feeling the void or the loneness, when in reality this is all part of the human experience. 
Rather than strive for happiness, I would instead focus on feeling at peace with the moments and experiences that you have on daily basis, find peace and contentment in the day to day mundane tasks of life.  Happiness comes and goes, but inner peace will carry you through each day.  
Here’s to inner peace!

This time of the year is always about new beginnings! It is a wonderful time to reflect on the past year and to look forward into the New Year.
I find that being human can be very challenging, and sometimes it is easier to just put your head down, follow the rules and not take any risks. While this works during certain points of our lives, living this way over many years, even decades can invoke a life that is dull and uninspiring.
We as humans are creative beings, and periodically changing things up is healthy and keeps the energy following. Recently, one of our practitioners took the leap and moved to Hawaii. Everything seemed to fall into place, she got a great job and it was in the perfect location. She took the leap and moved! This is no small task, packing and moving away is a HUGE change and takes A LOT of courage and work. I was so happy and proud of her for taking the leap. This is just what she needed in the moment.
After living in Hawaii for 3 months, it became clear that this was not the right path or place for her and with some deep introspection; she decided to move back to Denver. Some many say, oh what a waste of time, energy and money. I say what AN amazing change and experience she had! She personally grew by leaps and bounds, and learned how to trust her own guidance system and make decisions that were right for her. Now she is back in Denver, grateful, energized and no longer craving for another life in Hawaii. She took a leap and life rewarded her, in a very unexpected way.
What do you want to bring into your life this year? What new thing do you want to try that is a little bit scary? Here are some tips to living an introspective, peaceful and inspiring life:
#1 Take some calculated risks (be unattached to the outcome)
#2 Cut people or things out of your life that don’t feed your soul in a positive way
#3 Trust that there are certain things about life that are beyond your control
#4 Admit your mistakes and failures, and move on quickly without any self-shaming or judgement
#5 Trust your own unique life path, don’t compare yourself to others
#6 Trust that small voice inside of you
I hope 2019 brings to you much joy, peace and good health!
Happy New Year,

As we move into the holidays; generally a stressful time of the year. I am reminded of a documentary that I saw years ago, called Money and Life. It discusses the dangers of attaching too much of our lives and worth to a dollar figure.
Over the years, money has lost its roots… it was created as a spiritual exchange of energy between people. Today, money feels more like something that controls our lives and divides us. Money today, causes a feeling of division and lack. The holidays feed into this feeling, causing us to spend money on things we don’t need and on presents that are forgotten within a month. Many times people will go into debt to fill this expectation of spending over the holidays.
What can you do? How can you buck traditional consumer culture?
The first thing is to start from within. Start by shifting your inner paradigm around money and spending. Trade spending and consuming for more time to think and relax.
Purchase things that are built to last, so many products today, break down within 1-2 years of purchase.  This is what we call planned obsolescence, where products are literally designed to break within a certain time frame so you have to buy it new again.  I recently, flew on Southwest airlines and they had an article in their magazine about buying products only once, and buying things that are built to last.  The idea of buying something that is build to last is good for you and the planet.  There is a website, called buymeonce that recommends products and companies that build their products to last, check them out here. 
Buy experiences rather than consumer goods, for example: gift cards for dinner, a massage, tickets to the movie or theatre the options are endless. (Even better, take your friends or family out on an adventure, you get to spend time with them and remember the experience.)
Tap into your creative side and make something this year, a photo book, knit a hat or scarf, make jewelry, make a mix of your favorite music, bake cookies.
Shop at a local small business to keep the money in the local economy.
Donate to your gift recipient’s favorite not for profit.
If you have never heard of the Story of Stuff project, watch their awesome YouTube video here!  
Wishing you and your family a very peaceful and happy Holiday!

I was having lunch with a friend and we got on the topic of times in our lives where we have to let go and surrender to what is. Trying to control something out of our control only stresses ourselves out and doesn’t help the situation or our stress levels.
There are many times in my life that I have surrendered, now don’t get me wrong surrendering is an art form and must be used at the right time. Some people can use it as an excuse for giving up on something. I don’t want surrender to be misconstrued with giving up.
There are certain things that we can control in our lives. We can try to make good choices, with what we eat, how we treat our bodies, how we spend our free time, which people we choose to spend our time with, and lifestyle choices that support us or sabotage us in our daily lives. Life is certainly tricky and unique to each and every one of us.
There are many things in our lives that are out of our control; how we grew up, our parents and family we were born into, and hard times that we face in our lives, racism, sexism and classism. Deciding when to surrender can be a powerful tool to use in your life, to help get you through the really tough times.
I made the very difficult decision to file personal bankruptcy back in 2008, once I made the decision, I surrendered the decision to the Trustee who oversaw my case. I could have lost The Wellness Center and my home, but amazingly I walked away with both intact, and created a payment plan for my debt and paid it off within a few years.
When I served as a Peace Corps volunteer in Nepal, after a year into my service I went into a deep depression. I was crying every day, I couldn’t get out of bed and was obsessed with food and calories. I was sent to the Capital of Nepal, Kathmandu for a psychological evaluation. After seeing a few counselors, the medical nurse, Debbie that was in charge of my case, with certainly said, “pack your bags you are going to be transferred to Washington D.C. for evaluation.” In peace corps terms I was going to be “Pysch Vaced” Yes, it is as bad as it sounds a psychiatric evacuation, for a Peace Corps volunteer it is equivalent to getting discharged from the military service. It feels like you are a failure and it is something to be ashamed about. This was another time I had to surrender. To make matters worse, my whole family was planning on visiting me in just 10 days and I would be in Washington D.C., instead of Nepal! The timing couldn’t have been worse.
I surrendered and accepted that I was going to be sent home, and most likely would never be back to Nepal. The amazing thing that happened, was the Medical Nurse’s request for a medical evaluation was denied! She said in the 10 plus years she had worked with the Peace Corps she had never been denied a medical evacuation request. It was very humbling. While I am not religious, I do believe there are angels that are above looking over me.
I suppose part of surrendering, is surrendering to things that are beyond our human control, and instead surrendering to a higher spirit or power.
All we can do is our best in our day to day lives. To show up for ourselves and for those we care about and love. We will make mistakes (lots of mistakes), take time to reflect on those mistakes and in turn make better decisions for the future. Without reflection, we continue to do the same thing over and over and expect different results. This truly is the definition of insanity.
Work hard, be thoughtful and conscious in your decisions, be disciplined (there are too many temptations in our society, learn to say no and your life will transform) and at the right times… surrender. When you make mistakes, don’t berate yourself, give yourself limitless self-love and compassion, recognize you are human and move forward.
 
Onwards and Upwards,