Being around children and older parents and friends definitely is a lesson in patience. My mom is in town this week, and we spent a few days up in Breckenridge. My mom, who is 77 years old and I skied together. At first, I noticed I was getting frustrated with how much slower she was moving, then I realized I had to practice patience. I had to change my frame of mind and expectations. I was happy to be spending time with my mom and if that meant taking fewer ski runs and only staying on green runs, it was worth it. The goal was not for me to get as many runs in as possible, it was to spend time with my Mom.
Having patience, can be a challenge for most of us, but the ability to tolerate waiting, and to delay instant gratification without becoming agitated or upset can be life changing. Being able to control your emotions or impulses and proceed calmly when faced with difficult or frustrating situations is an important life skill.
Needless to say, patience is not easy to attain and it’s probably harder now to achieve than ever before. In today’s world of ‘instant everything’, technological advancements and readily available credit have allowed us to obtain, experience, and consume practically anything we want. So you may be thinking, is having patience still a virtue?
Absolutely! Everything worthwhile and important does not take place right away. Relationships, projects, learning opportunities all take time, dedication and effort to achieve.
The Benefits of Developing Patience
- Reduces stress and makes you a happier, healthier person. When you learn and practice patience you don’t get as angry, stressed or overwhelmed. You are more in control of your emotions and in a better position to deal with difficult situations with ease and poise.
- Better decision-making. When you’re patient you take the time to assess the situation, see the big picture, and weigh any pros and cons. The chances of making a big mistake lessen because you avoid making it in haste.
- Helps develop understanding, empathy and compassion. You are automatically more understanding and compassionate with others when you yourself are patient. Patient people take the time to process what they go through and are able to determine what it takes to overcome obstacles so they are more understanding of others. This results in better, more fulfilling relationships with spouses, friends, children and bosses.