Being at Peace with Your Choices and Your Life…

Manis/Pedis, Massages, Yoga, Gym Membership, Nice Dinners, Vacations… what do you choose?  Do you choose it all?   

When I was writing, “do you choose it all?” it brought back memories of the rah rah Tony Robbins or the Millionaire Mind motivational seminars, that I would go

to 10 plus years ago, where they teach you, “you can HAVE IT ALL!”  This thinking is very emotional and intoxicating, through experience, I know better.  Don’t get me wrong, I do think people can “have it all”, but not in the way the media portrays, where having it all means buying whatever your heart desires.   This may be attainable for Hollywood movie stars and rock stars, and hedge fund managers, but for the rest of us, our abundance is found in our choices.  When you know what your core values are, your spending habits will reflect them.  The need to “HAVE IT ALL” falls by the way side, because you make the choice to have exactly what you want. 

Life for me has been a string of choices… if I truly embodied the philosophy, “I should or deserve to have it all”… I would probably have nothing in savings and still be in debt.  Because that is truly what this type of, “you can have it all,” thinking teaches us, to continually spend on whatever we desire, because we deserve it or “have to have it.”

There are some expenses that are non-negotiable, food, health insurance, retirement and rent/mortgage, Welcome to adulthood!   I know, it can be hard to grow up!  Then there is the “extra” $ that we have a little more flexibility in how we choose to spend it, but we still have to choose, and choosing can sometimes feel like a sacrifice.   I still pout when I “choose” not to buy something, instead I opt to wait until I have the money saved.  Even though I know it is the right choice for me in the moment, the little 5 year old in me still wants it NOW.   I know what my priorities are, I generally choose to buy organic, fresh food and I have a yoga  membership, I like to travel and I get monthly massages.  BUT I have chosen not to get monthly pedicures (I do my own nails), we occasionally eat out, we never go to sporting events or concerts, when we go on vacation we rent our home out on Airbnb to offset our travel expenses, and I enjoy buying clothes and furniture second hand.

These conscious choices, have given me a “rich” life.  I still want to put a new deck in our backyard, eventually finish our basement and redo our kitchen.  I certainly understand that these things take time and money.  While my 5 year old brain wants to do all of these home improvements NOW, my adult self feels grateful to just be in a home in a neighborhood we love, the improvements can wait….  there are other things that come first. 

What choices are you making today?  Are they helping or hindering you towards living your best life?